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Why Do You Hurt the One You Love?

July 9, 2020

Do you ever feel  in your relationship like you’re stuck in a loop or a negative cycle? It often looks like this: I feel hurt – (so) I hurt you – (then) you feel hurt – (so) you hurt me – (and again) I feel hurt… round and round. Why does this happen? If you’ve…

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How to Ask for What You Need (and Make Your Relationship Stronger)

June 11, 2020

Why is it so hard to ask for what you need in a relationship?     We all need all sorts of expressions of love from our partner – support when we’re down, physical affection, laughter, compassion, positive feedback, understanding, listening, putting us first.  And we need help at different times – help getting things done and…

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How to Communicate Better in Your Relationship

June 3, 2020

Couples have a dialogue, an ongoing exchange of feelings, experiences, thoughts, ideas, concerns and opinions. They play two roles, one that I call ‘communicator’ and the other is a ‘listener’.  Setting up clear expectations for how dialogue will happen in your relationship helps both partners to feel less vulnerable and more secure, no matter what…

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Listening is an Act of Love

May 25, 2020

Listening is not passive, it’s not ‘doing nothing’. Listening is not the absence of presence, it’s all about presence. Listening is stopping what you are doing to be there for someone else. Listening is an end in itself  – taking in what the other person has to say. Listening involves the eyes, ears and heart.…

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You Go First: Practicing Gratitude in Your Relationship

May 17, 2020

One of the best ways to strengthen your connection is to consciously introduce more appreciation and gratitude in your relationship. You can initiate positive change by looking for opportunities to acknowledge and thank your partner.  The last couple of months have shaken your world and routine. All the moving parts that fit together and created…

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Tip #7 for Couples: Keep your Romance and Intimacy Alive

May 5, 2020

Many couples are wondering if it’s possible to keep romance and intimacy alive during the Corona crisis.  Here are some questions we’ve been hearing: How can we create opportunity for romantic breaks when the usual sources of entertainment and diversion are not available? How can passion and desire bloom in the context of unusual, prolonged…

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Tip # 5 for Couples: Create Boundaries

March 31, 2020

You’ve been isolated with your partner (and maybe children too) for a few weeks already and some days you feel you’ve got it and other days you are holding your breath, waiting to explode.  If the tension is mounting, it could be a good time to re-examine the structure you’ve set up in this strange…

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Tip # 2 for couples: Look for opportunities to see the good in your partner.

March 26, 2020

“I want my life back.” I’m hearing from couples that this is the hardest time they’ve ever had to live through, that both partners are struggling and exhausted, that being at home together 24/7 is just not sustainable. The worry of the unknown is hard enough – add to that a negative, bickering home environment…

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Tip #1 for Couples : Aim for Zero Negativity in your Shared Space

March 23, 2020

ZERO negativity towards the person you’re living with around the clock? It sounds impossible, maybe even a little fake. Try it – the results will surprise you. During these intense days at home with your partner, you both deserve to express emotions openly, communicate your needs and receive listening, empathy and warmth in return. You…

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7 Tips for Working at Home with your Partner and Keeping your Relationship Close and Strong

March 16, 2020

In the best of times, it is challenging for couples to work at home together. Finding personal space and focus while sharing a work environment with your partner is not easy and it can be distracting and lead to conflict. That’s in the best of times. In a situation like ours with so much uncertainty…

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