Tools for Couples
Real Questions From Real Couples
I’m happy to share my Q & A post, in which I respond to a real question about relationships. If you have a question you’d like me to answer, feel free to send me a private message. Q – I really feel like my partner and I could benefit from relationship coaching, but he’s very…Read More
5 Daily Practices to Maintain Warmth in Your Relationship
You and your partner both need support and compassion. Care for your connection and you’ll be there for each other when this difficult winter passes. Here are 5 daily practices to maintain warmth in your relationship: SAY THANK YOU: Express gratitude and let your partner know that you appreciate the big and small things they…Read More
On Valentine’s Day, Gift Each Other Your Loving Presence
One of the greatest gifts you and your partner can give each other for Valentine’s Day is your loving presence. Put away your phones and other distractions, and take time to connect through conversation. Happy Valentine’s Day! Here are some fun conversation starters for you to try out: Valentine’s Day Conversation StartersRead More
Always Have a Dream on the Horizon (and other ways to keep your relationship vibrant)
For more than three decades, my life partner Howard and I have started the new year by celebrating our January 2nd wedding anniversary. Is there a secret to a long, happy relationship? There’s no magic formula for everyone, but here are a few thoughts about what’s kept our relationship vibrant. We always have a dream…Read More
When’s a Good Time for a Couple to Seek Professional Help?
People ask me if there’s a right time for a couple to seek professional help. I believe all couples can benefit from support, especially during these three stages of a relationship: Early Phase By seeking professional guidance early on, you’ll build a solid foundation of healthy communication and connection. You’ll learn tools for repairing conflict…Read More
Do You Want to Be Right Or Do You Want to Feel More Connected to Your Partner?
Dani: You spend more time with your work friends than you do with me. Tal: That’s not true! I haven’t gone out with them in at least two weeks. What’s happening in this conversation? Dani raises a sensitive topic that includes criticism, and Tal responds by disagreeing and using data to strengthen her point. When…Read More
5 questions (and answers) about relationship coaching
Are you curious about Relationship Coaching? Here are some common questions (and answers) about coaching for couples: How will Relationship Coaching help me and my partner? 🔹 Coaching helps revive intimacy, security, openness, and warmth. 🔹 Coaching empowers you to articulate your individual dreams and create a new, shared vision for your relationship in the…Read More
All couples argue. Successful couples repair.
This past year has tested you and your partner in so many ways. You’ve both been juggling your work and family responsibilities amid the ongoing stress and uncertainty of the pandemic. If you’ve drifted apart, or you’re often arguing or hurting each other, how can you repair your relationship? Relationship expert, John Gottman, says: “All…Read More
Tu B’Av Conversation Starters: 10 Questions to Spark Connection and Conversation
This weekend we celebrate Tu B’Av – our Jewish Valentine’s Day. It’s a great opportunity to enjoy a ‘summer date’ with your partner. For the occasion, I’ve put together some Tu B’Av Conversation Starters: 10 fun and intimate questions to help spark conversation and connection. You don’t need to go anywhere for this date. Just…Read More
Summer Date Conversation Starter: Do You Have a Relationship Role Model?
This summer, make time each week for a ‘summer date’ – like a walk along the beach, a picnic, or dinner out. It could be fun to give each date a theme that will stimulate interesting conversation. Be curious about your partner. Be open to new discoveries as a couple. Here’s our first ’conversation starter’:…Read More
Cherish Your Love Story (and other advice for newlyweds)
This week, my sweet, light-filled son and his warmhearted and beautiful fiancée are getting married! I’m feeling so inspired and energized by the celebration of their love and their big step on the journey of their life together as a couple. As a mom, married for several decades, and as a relationship coach, I’m tempted…Read More
Conflict is an Opportunity for Growth in a Relationship
Why is conflict an opportunity for growth in a relationship? It’s an opportunity to share different sides of yourself with your partner. It’s an opportunity to get to know and appreciate your partner’s perspective and priorities. It’s not always pleasant in the moment, but it’s real. Constructive conflict can be empowering and authentic, and can…Read More